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1.Never both be angry at the same time.
2. Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire.
3.If one of you has to win an argument , let it be your mate.
4.If you have to criticize, do it lovingly.
5.Never bring up the mistakes of the past.
6.Neglect the whole world rather than each other.
7.Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled.
8.At least once every day try to say one kind or complimentary thing to your life"s partner.
9.When you have done something wrong,be ready to admit it and ask for forgiveness.
10.It takes two to make a quarrel,and the one in the wrong is the one who does the most talking. |
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By : Rules For A Happy Marriage (03 Mar 2010) |
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Life is divided into Four parts according to Indian culture:-
1. Brahmcharya 2. Grehstha 3. Vaanprast 4. Sanyas
First stage goes up to 25 years of age. In this age or part of life native gets education and adopt the importance of quality like Love, Affection helps to each other and service of mankind.
The Second stage is called Grehasth Ashram. In this stage native get married and take oath that they will share their woe and weal for whole Life. From that day they understood that they are made for each other and after that they gives birth to his new generation and they move in society with love, affection, serve to other and adopt the teaching of elders and religion .It is very essential for peace and prosperity of the society
The Third stage is Vaanprast. In this stage person renounces the world and give his responsibilities to his next generation and self goes to outer places to know himself and serve to society. But it is duty of every person not to leave his or her responsibility .He can serve the society from the core of the heart with his own responsibility
The Fourth stage is Sanyas. Sanyas is only for those people who have no affection with the society. But in Kalyug Vaanprast Ashram is a last stage.
If peep into history then only Grehsath Ashram (Married life) is a best stage. Only Grehsath Ashram provides and gives shelter to other three Ashram.
Only Grehsath Ashram (Married life) complete life's four duties. Which is Religion, Finance, Sex and surrender means. Dharam, Arth, Kaam and Moksha. So only married life is the best stage of life. |
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By : marrige life & indian culture (09 Feb 2010) |
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To choose the good period and time for the beginning of any type of good work is called MUHURAT. Everybody wants that beginning of his work should be in auspicious time because fruits of that work depend upon good muhurata. Everybody knows that well begun is half done. But generally some people say that it should be happen which God writes in our favor. Then what is the use of muhurata ? But if we believe in this rule act than there is no need to done any work or duty. It is not possible at all. As per Vedic system every body comes to this world on the basis of sanchit karma's and we will have to do our duties. We have to come as a human being to change our duties to pure our soul and self-upliftment rather then to do only balance duties of previous birth which is written by god in our fate. So that why every religion give the inspiration that to do good deeds, jaap , donate and to improve yourself.
At the time of Birth as per planets position in Zodiac begets woe and weal in this materialistic world. It means when we take birth in this world, it is the Muhurata of life's journey. Similarly we start any work like starting of shop, entrance of newly built home, timing of marriage, starting of new house or any important work of life. At that time when we start that work we get woe and weals form that particular work. As per planetary position in this Zodiac. In routine life we hear so many times the marriage ceremony should not be taken place when the Venus is combust (Tara Duba). Because, Venus is the karka for marriage .It gives all comforts related to married life. It should be in pure form at the time of marriage. If one's horoscope Venus combust then at the Muhurata of marriage Kundli the Venus is in pure form of that native.
If the venus is deblitated in horoscope then marriage should at that time when Venus is exalted in Muhurata of Marriage Kundli. So as per Muhurata we can reduce the problems particular portion of life. So when we are going to any important work in our life then karka for the particular work should be pure.
As per my View, we should opt for good Muhurata instead of Kundli Milan which type of match making is taking place in these days. |
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By : murhat & its meaning (09 Feb 2010) |
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Marriage is sacred relationship between husband and wife. In Hindi language we say Vivah to marriage. Vivah word is made from combination of two words Vi+ Vah. Vi means Vishishit means Important and Vah means Nirvah means understanding. Understanding with some one important which is made for you only. In married life we do understandings with our life partner with his or her evils weakness and with lot of love and affection .We gave him or her full respect.
The ancient tradition of the marriage is very deep rooted into the vedic system. Among the shodash sanskaar's the marriage is considered to be most important namely as Vivah sanskaar. Normal human being is incomplete in this materialistic world. For the completion one is to complete to all the assigned duties. These duties are mainly four Dharma, Arth , Kaam and Moksha. Generally these are miss- interpreted by common men.
DHARAM :-
Actual meaning of Dharam is not actually the Dharam but also truth fullness, non-violence, kindness, love and spiritual in lightness. While living in this materialistic word and completing the duties towards the family.
ARTH:-
The actual meaning of Arth is to know the essence of the nature that hardly means financially strong .The literal meaning of Arth is to know. But the general interpretation in taken by common man as financial stability, luxury goods like car, having a huge properties but reality lies somewhere else that states to knows the mysteries of the nature to know the creator and to amend the public.
KAAM :-
The common man generally is at the mercy of the people those who have little knowledge they are misguiding the gullible. By these own institution are spoiling the society. Generally Kaam is miss interpreted as Sex but it is incomplete and wrong because actual meaning of kaam is achievements. The achievements of goal through sex that is to make the family and to further increase the Vansh. This is very important that hardly means the physical relation. The only physical relation considered as the worst in the Vedic system. This is the achievements, adoption of the emotions and honor. When male and female both are together they get complete. This is the mutual love to complete a person. When they are not together than a person is incomplete. The respect to the partner is so high. The lord shiva named the wife Ardhangini. That is the half. No man is complete without wife and No wife is complete without her husband.
In Vedic system this is the most sacred union of two soul rather than two bodies. But the lust of human's has mitigated has all the religious value is and start believing pre-marital sex. This is against the value's because in the word of fastness, the important of patience is lost. It becomes impossible to control the physical attraction and sexual last for common human being. The ancient saza’s and rishies elevated themselves from these materialistic lusts. They have elevated developed so high. They have given the equal importance to there spouse.
Crime for the sex is on the high rise. Due to this humanity looses its dignity. Comparing to the animals has no brains which have reported any sex crimes the human's with brains repeating it continuously. Equalizing their mental level to animals against are religious values. In the religion the marriage is door tolds the heavens into various step by completing the duties of lord brahma THE CREATER, The Vishnu THE PROVIDER, The SHIVA that is the completeness. We can complete the duties of brahma by giving them good education, good sanskaar's high value's society. We became Vishnu and this is the totally satisfaction for that is lord Shiva.
Now in the modern society the base of marriage is very weak. The divorce is in the routine matter. The separation of two human being otherwise thus the loss of two families. The life of coming generation is without any higher values. But will be full of social stigma’s. Actually marriage is process of completion like |
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By : Meaning Of Marrige (09 Feb 2010) |
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What is Kundli Milan (Match Making):-
Before solemnize any marriage, we check the position of the stars present in the horoscopes of both the boy and girl. According to the stars we come to know the nature of boy and girl, Can they adjust with each other by nature, and mental status? Are they suitable for each other?
Astrology is the only way in the world by which we can peep into the future .We can also judge one's married life through Astrology. So Kundli Milan is important for happy married life. If Kundli Milan should be in proper way and Muhurat of marriage will take place according to both boy and girl's horoscopes then we can ward of so many problems of married life but question rise that should we opted for right Kundli Milan. We know all that which type of Kundli Milan is doing in these days. We are checking only Guna's. Is only Guna Milan is sufficient to check the happy married life. Only Guna's matching is not sufficient .No body give any stress on placement of planets and forming good and bad yogas and combination regarding married life in both horoscopes.
In general after 18 Guna's matching the permission is given for marriage and if less than 18 guna's are matched than say no to match. We have so many examples in which cases after matching the 30 guna's the marriage ends into break or divorce and we are also having so many examples in which cases less than 12 guna's are matched then after 15 years married life is running smoothly. Then where is the error? We will give the blame to Astrology.In this position Astrology is not wrong. Only Astrologer will be wrong who gives stress to only guna's instead of placement of planets and forming combinations.
Sometime parents are defaulter because they change the date and time of birth of the child. In these day's new generation check the guna's on computer and they give quick decision that kundli is matched. If you believe in such type of match making then there is no use of kundli Milan. After the marriage when problems occur then they directly give blame to Astrology and said we match the horoscope. Don't play with your life with little knowledge and know about what is exact match making. It is our duty to find that who have full knowledge of kundli Milan or Astrology. We know surely problems will ward off if the match making is right. If you want a happy married life then right kundli Milan is necessary. But it is essential for those people whose married life is looking problematic in horoscope. |
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By : Kundali Match (09 Feb 2010) |
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